• Anna Dallavalle

Why Emotional Intelligence Matters

There are times when we feel we are driven by our emotions for better or worse. Understanding our emotions can allow us to lead more fulfilling lives.

We all take steps to keep our body fit and healthy: we look after our diet; we go to the gym or take up a sport to keep in shape (or at least this is one of our recurrent new year’s resolutions!); we go to the GP whenever we don’t feel well.

As we grow up we learn problem solving skills; in school we study various subjects, we learn to resolve practical problems. What do we do for our emotional wellbeing?

For the most part, our quality of life is determined by our ability to deal with our emotions and yet we sometimes struggle to manage them; we don’t always know how to express them appropriately and have little awareness about what triggers them. Our ability to deal with emotions can also affect our relationships.

Emotions are at the core of most of the decisions we make every day and influence our behaviour. If we feel annoyed we are more likely to snap at the people around us or, whenever we feel low, we may avoid other people’s company as we may feel we do not have the energy for that.

It can be hard to deal with the many demands of life and it is easier to keep our focus on the world outside as opposed to what happens on the inside.Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand how we feel and why and it can greatly improve our enjoyment of life. It also makes it easier to identify other people’s emotions and respond appropriately.

When we pay attention to how we are feeling, we learn to trust our emotions, and we become far more able to manage them.

A healthy emotional life allows us to live more fully, to build stronger and more satisfying relationships and to look at the world around us is a more balanced and realistic way.

Counselling offers an effective way to learn new tools to increase your self-awareness and to understand and be in control of our responses.